In the Family a Proclamation to the world it says, that parents have a sacred duty to rear children in love and righteousness and providing for physical and spiritual needs and teach them to serve and love in and out of the home. God showed us the example of being a parent. The first commandment to Adam and Eve when they were in the garden pertained to their potential for parenthood. What a special and sacred privilege it is for God to trust us enough to raise and help his children. The purposes of parenting are to protect and prepare children to survive and thrive in the world in which they are going to live in. I really like this and think that two important words that I got from it is survive and thrive. My sister in law always says that she kept them alive. I think its ironic because sometimes kids are hard to deal with and just being able to keep them alive feels like a lot of work but it is also about teaching them how to survive and fend for themselves. To teach them how to be self reliant, like how to cook, sew, manage money, how to work, and so on. Raising children is so much more than just watching them and making sure they aren't getting into things they aren't supposed to. Its about teaching them, giving them attention, encouraging them, helping, and most important is making them feel loved. I think its important that when you are teaching children, that they learn from the natural consequences which means without any parental influence. Obviously if they are doing something that is too dangerous or it will affect someone else then the parent would get involved, but other than that its good for kids to see that when they do something that their is always a natural consequence to something whether it is good or bad. I think that is how it processes in their minds. For example, when a child touches the hot stove, their reaction is that it is hot and to not touch it. Usually they won't touch it because they remember the consequence that happened naturally from it. I believe that children a lot of times just need to feel loved and have attention. I think when they don't have the attention needed from their parents is when they feel like they have to stand out and be a class clown in class or have sexual relations with other people to make them feel wanted and loved. When they don't feel love from a parent in the home they feel obligated to find it elsewhere and do stupid things. Everyone needs to feel like they belong and nothing is more important than the feeling that you belong in your home. When I was growing up in my home, my mom was at work most of the time and I was stuck at home with my 7 brothers and my dad who was in prison most of the time. When he came back I was scared to even be in my own home and felt like I didn't belong. My mom is the only one who made me feel loved, without her I would have probably acted out like some of my brothers did. They were pushed out and didn't get the love needed. I think that is super important and as I think about raising my own kids I know that its so important to show the that love and that they know they are loved and Im here for them. When Ii am a parent, I also want to ask them politely and tell them why and what I would like them to do differently. I want to be able to use my words and not be aggressive and react by hitting or just saying no, but explaining why I would rather they didn't do that is really important to me as I will be a parent someday.
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